I was never a popular child at school. I was bullied teased and harassed by a group of girls who felt every insecure and threatened by me as I was different in many ways to them.
They had new clothes one books new bags and were not very bright.
Me on the other hand my parents dressed me up in all my older sisters hand me downs I went to school with my sisters old hand me down books and I wasnโt overly smart, but I was smarter than the girls that teased me relentlessly day in and day out at school. My family was religious, and my home life was not the best.
Because of the bullying throughout the years, I became a people pleaser, and that was because I wanted to be liked, I wanted to be popular and so I let people push me around. I did things that people wanted me to do so that I could be in the in crowd and fit in. Still nothing I ever did seem dot please people particularly those girls.
As within a year of being bullied I became very withdrawn and shy and fearful of others to the point where I would not express myself, what I felt and what I wanted at school and at home when I needed support and attention I was being told to toughen up and to go away and deal with it on my own. So, at school I was quiet and withdrawn and at home I rebelled to get attention but I was still a good kid.
As I got older, I realized five very things that really helped me deal with the bullying and move forward with my life. These five things were:
1) ๐๐ ๐ฆ๐๐ข ๐๐๐’๐ก ๐ ๐ก๐๐๐ ๐ข๐ ๐๐๐ ๐ฆ๐๐ข๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐กโ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ค๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ฆ ๐๐ข๐ โ ๐ฆ๐๐ข ๐๐๐๐ข๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐กโ๐ ๐ก๐๐๐.
2) ๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ข๐๐๐, ๐ก๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐, ๐๐๐๐ ๐’๐ก ๐๐๐๐๐๐ฆ ๐๐๐ก๐ก๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐กโ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ข๐ ๐ ๐คโ๐๐ก ๐๐๐๐๐๐ฆ ๐๐๐ก๐ก๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐คโ๐๐ก ๐ฆ๐๐ข ๐กโ๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐ฆ๐๐ข๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ โ๐๐ค ๐ฆ๐๐ข ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ข๐ก ๐ฆ๐๐ข๐๐ ๐๐๐.
3) ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐’๐ก ๐๐๐ ๐ฆ ๐๐๐๐ ๐ค๐๐ ๐๐๐ฃ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ก ๐ก๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐ฆ. ๐ฟ๐๐๐ โ๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ค๐๐ฆ๐ ๐ค๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐ข๐๐ ๐๐ ๐ข๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ค๐๐ , ๐๐๐๐ ๐ก๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐ก๐๐๐๐ . ๐ด๐๐ ๐๐ ๐ฆ๐๐ข ๐๐๐๐ฆ โ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐กโ๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐ก๐๐๐๐ , ๐ฆ๐๐ข’๐๐ ๐๐๐ฃ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ค, ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ฃ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ก๐ ๐กโ๐ ๐๐๐๐ง๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐กโ๐๐ก ๐ผ ๐๐๐๐ค ๐กโ๐๐ก ๐ฆ๐๐ข ๐๐๐ ๐๐.
4) ๐๐๐ก ๐๐ฃ๐๐๐ฆ๐๐๐ ๐ค๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐ฆ๐๐ข ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐ก๐ก๐๐ ๐คโ๐ ๐ฆ๐๐ข ๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐คโ๐๐ก ๐ฆ๐๐ข ๐๐ ๐ ๐ ๐๐ก ๐๐ ๐๐๐ค๐๐ฆ๐ ๐๐๐ ๐ก ๐ก๐ ๐๐ ๐ฆ๐๐ข๐๐ ๐๐๐, ๐๐๐ก ๐ฆ๐๐ข๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐โ๐ก ๐ โ๐๐๐, ๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ก ๐คโ๐ ๐ฆ๐๐ข ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐ข๐ก โ๐๐๐๐กโ๐ฆ ๐๐๐ข๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐ ๐ ๐กโ๐๐ก ๐ฆ๐๐ข ๐๐๐โ๐ก ๐๐๐ก ๐ค๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐ฃ๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐กโ๐๐ก ๐ฆ๐๐ข ๐๐๐๐ฆ ๐๐ก๐ก๐๐๐๐ก ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐คโ๐ ๐ค๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ฃ๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ก ๐ฆ๐๐ข ๐๐๐ ๐ฆ๐๐ข๐ ๐๐๐ข๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ .
5) ๐โ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ค๐๐ฆ๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ก๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ข๐ก ๐กโ๐๐๐ ๐กโ๐๐ก ๐ค๐๐๐ก ๐๐๐๐ ๐ฆ๐๐ข ๐๐๐ ๐กโ๐๐ก ๐ค๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ข๐๐/๐กโ๐๐๐๐ก๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ฆ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ข๐๐ ๐ฆ๐๐ข ๐๐๐ ๐ค๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐ฆ๐กโ๐๐๐ ๐ก๐ โ๐ข๐๐ก ๐ฆ๐๐ข ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ฆ๐๐ข ๐๐๐ค๐ ๐ก๐ ๐กโ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ฃ๐๐. ๐๐๐ข ๐๐๐โ๐ก โ๐๐ฃ๐ ๐ก๐ ๐ก๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐คโ๐๐ก ๐กโ๐๐ฆ ๐ ๐๐ฆ ๐๐ ๐๐. ๐ผ๐ก ๐๐ ๐กโ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ข๐๐๐ก๐๐๐ ๐กโ๐๐ก ๐กโ๐๐ฆ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ก๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐ก๐ ๐ฆ๐๐ข ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ฆ โ๐๐ ๐๐๐กโ๐๐๐ ๐ก๐ ๐๐ ๐ค๐๐กโ ๐ฆ๐๐ข ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ฆ. ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ก๐๐๐ข๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ก๐ ๐๐ ๐ฆ๐๐ข, ๐๐ข๐ก๐ ๐ก๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐ข๐๐ ๐ก๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐ฃ๐๐๐ฆ๐กโ๐๐๐ ๐ฆ๐๐ข ๐๐.
I am really grateful to have learned these things and to be able to pass them on to you now.
๐ฏ๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐.
It is because of you and your example that your children are bullying other children. If you bully others in front of your children directly or indirectly some of what they see and hear will rub off on them and they will copy you as they are young and impressionable and they will think that that sort of behavior is normal and acceptable. Please take a good hard look at yourself and your behavior and change it so that your children donโt become bullies. Control your temper with others and be rational human beings that have rational conversations and support one and other instead of getting angry and blowing up at others and becoming verbally and physically violent with others.
If you know your child is bullying another child, then tell them to stop as the effects of being bullied when you are the one being bullied are tremendous and can scar a person for life if that person doesnโt deal with what has happened.ยฉ
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