Having that child like innocence
Have you ever just sat and wondered how you grew up?
Did you really investigate how you lost that innocence you had as a child?
Why as adults it is perceived as wrong to be like a child again?
Why no matter how hard you try you can’t get back that innocence you had as a child?
I was at a friends’ sons 3rd birthday party a while back and I saw how all the little children were. They were happy and playing and have having the time of their lives. They didn’t care about what other people thought of them, they weren’t worried about being judged or not being enough or not belonging at that age.
They just was life as one big fun exciting adventure to be lived. They were only occupied with the here and now. They had no worries about that had happened in the past and no fears about the future and what was to come.
It was just such a beautify joyful sight to see. It also kind of made me sad as I didn’t have that kind of a childhood and had to grow up very very quickly. Don’t get me wrong I did have some good times in the past and I cherish those moments but the majority of my childhood was not the best with a sister who clearly wanted to be the only child in the family and parents who could not give me the love and attention I needed as they were to busy re-enacting their past life experience and on how they were treated as children as they thought it was the “norm”. they thought it was the norm to psychologically abuse me as that was the way they were treated.
There was a massive difference in the way they treated me to the way they treated my sister. They gave her everything she wanted, spent all of their time with her as she was the golden child the one they really wanted and well as my extended family used to tell me I was the mistake the one they didn’t want and this was evident in their actions.
I would have loved to have had parents that wanted me and loved me and were there for me emotionally so that I didn’t have to grow up so quickly. Because I was the one, they weren’t there for who whenever I want to them for help got cast aside, I have to grow up very quickly and see the world from a very different light to most children my age.
They had me held down in year one so that I would not outshine my older sister. Because of this I was teased and taunted by the other children in my grade because I was older than them. The children my age also look at me as though I was dumb and stupid and the treated me like an outcast, someone they did not want to be around. They did not understand that I was made to repeat year one not because I was not smart but because of my parents’ favoritism towards my older sister. They could not have the apple of their eye outshone by her younger sister at any cost.
I used to sit as a child in my special little place that only I knew about and daydream about what it would be like to have parents that really did love me and could give me the love I wanted and needed. It was one of the key things that used to keep me going.
In these daydreams I had my child like innocence back and that I could just be me play, laugh, be silly, joke around and cry and still be loved for who I was. That made me feel amazing.
Recently at the 3-year old’s birthday party I got to thinking that it would be so amazing to be able to get back that innocence and as I watched those children play, I smiled as they were just so beautiful to watch.
There may not be a way to get all of that child like innocence back but there is way to more fully enjoy life and that is through nurturing our inner child within us. Find out what he or she needs through personal development and looking within. Life doesn’t always have to be so serious why not be silly and fun every once in a while and let our inner child out to play and shine through us through being playful, and finding those little pieces of ourselves every day that we had forgotten about as we grew up to be the adults we are today and remembering what we were about back them when we were innocent.
The way I see it is we only get one life so why not live it fully and as a whole person by getting to know and love ourselves for not only the person we are today but the child we were back then.
What are 3 positive fun things you used to do when you were younger that made you feel excited, joyful and proud that you no longer do?
Can you perhaps start doing those three things again?
I dare you to do them for a month and then tell me what differences you see in yourself and your life from doing those things? I can guarantee that you will see massive improvements in your life, how you feel about yourself and life and what you think in general.
Why not just give this a go and see?
If you can’t remember 3 things, then reach out as I am here and can coach to be able to find them.
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