I went down to the beach today during my lunch break, and it was nice. It was silent, no other people around to dodge and as I walked across the joining of Albert Road to Victoria Av to get to the beach, which was at the end of Victoria Av, I noticed the path was so beautiful. It is spring here are present and all the flowers are coming out to blossom and bloom. I saw dogs roaming around and children out playing in playgrounds and there were birds chirping.

It made me feel so very blessed to be able to walk down there and film it and have the time to myself that was much needed. I love spring with the exquisite different coloured leaves and flowers out, with the different pollen smells blending in to each other giving off a very fresh and vibrant smell. That smell took me back to my childhood secret place.

The secret place was in the rain-forest out the back from my parents’ home. I used to go there and hide when things got bad for me. It was my special place where no one could find me. I used to go there a lot to get my thoughts together and to let the sound of the birds chirping and the sound of the water trickling slowly in the stream calm and soothe me emotionally. I was so blessed to have found that place as there I could be anyone I wanted to be. I could pretend that I was loved. I felt like I belonged there, as the animals in the rain-forest didn’t judge me or hurt me. I was so totally at peace when I was there. I wished I could live and be in that special place for ever.

It wasn’t possible, though, as I had to grow up and move on at some point. Often when I meditate now, I take myself back to that special place in the rain-forest as it was where the child me became happy and was allowed to be happy as nature has a way of opening itself up to you when you are little and welcoming you in. It is a place where your imagination could run wild and free.

As we grow up, sometimes, it is not possible to have a special place like that where you can really let your hair down, have an imagination and be free. Too much, as we grow older relies on getting good grades, getting a job and earning an income to survive that we forget that we still have to nourish and nurture our inner child and that means having quality time to ourselves away from the hustle and bustle of normal everyday life.

I am wondering when life got so rushed, full of prying, judging eyes and complicated. So much so that we start becoming fake to be liked, belong, and even loved by others. There isn’t a single soul on the planet that is truly and completely themselves as our paths as we grow up and get more and more shaped by society, the rules of society and every other person we come in contact with.

Let’s face it we all become someone very different to the person we were when we were children. We have become more serious, more sensitive, more needy, constantly seeking to belong and to love and to be enough for others that we forget that for us to be truly happy, we have to look inwards and work on our relationships with ourselves. We forget that to be loved and to be able to love fully and unconditionally; we have to love ourselves and to fall in love with our lives again instead of looking for love on the outside, which never really lasts as nothing is forever these days.

Relationships and marriages break up, family judge before truly seeking to understand each other, friends eventually move away and fall out of contact and then all that we are left with after all that is an empty shell of a person we know nothing about as we for most of our lives weren’t our true selves we were someone else for everyone else, we put all our own needs and wants below the needs and wants of other people in the hope that they will love, see us as enough and welcome us in to their lives so that we will feel as though we belong somewhere.

What if instead of searching for love, belonging and being seen as enough by external forces we looked deep within ourselves and got to know that person deep down inside for who they really are developed ourselves and that person hidden within and then from there even learned to love ourselves unconditionally? Then we can love others unconditionally for who they are.

So that we can do this, we have to be willing to go on a journey and know that wherever that journey takes us, that we will be better off for going on that journey. For this journey we have to work on those defining moments from our past and change that those moments mean to us, we have to be willing to put in the hard yards when it comes to working on ourselves and we have to be willing to face our fears head on no matter how hard it gets. We have to be able to see the beautiful, the good, the bad and the ugly within us and work on our triggers that make us react negatively with things and we have to be willing to admit the truth about things to ourselves about situations and circumstances from our past and the part we played in those situations. We have to be willing to replace our limiting beliefs that keep us in our comfort zone with new positive and empowering beliefs that will often move us outside of our comfort zone to reach our goals, move towards our purpose and truly reach our potential in life.

Are you ready for this as it will not be easy but it is totally worth it. You have to be committed to the journey and yourselves so that it works for you. You must take action and you have to do it now because tomorrow may never come and yesterday has already gone. All we have is here and now to get this happening, so who’s with me on this?

Please contact me if you are ready and truly committed to yourself and the journey and I will coach, mentor and guide you through what needs to happen. ©

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