This one is for all the singles on valentine’s day

Valentines day is for love and appreciating the people we love in our live. You do not necessarily have to be in a romantic relationship to celebrate valentine’s day.
Singles all around the world are in the most important relationship they can ever be in and that is the one with themselves.

The reason I say that the relationship within is the most important one is because if you do not love and respect yourself the odds are you will attract the wrong sort of romantic partner into your life.

Love starts with self-love and that my friend is an inside job.

No one else can build or fix your relationship within you but you.

I have known people who have jumped from relationship to relationship without getting to know who they are and healing from the previous relationship. They don’t see the use in taking time out on their own to heal rebuild their relationships with themselves and truly get to know who they are. In essence when they do that, they are essentially living their lives for other people and trying to fill a void that was left behind from the breakup of the previous relationship thus not giving them selves time to rebuild\repair the broken relationship within themselves.

This intern leads to toxic relationships and them feeling even more along than they were before as the new relationship chips ways at their inner relationship and what is left of it until the person becomes bitter and twisted and from the things that went wrong in the previous relationships they had.

This makes them more cynical and distrusting of the other person as they are still holding on to the emotions and the negative memories of the past and so each new relationship becomes shorter and shorter.

What they are not realising is that through not emotionally healing between each relationship they are setting the course of the cycle to restart and so they attract the same sorts of partners. Through taking time out rebuilding your relationship with yourself you are also looking at the relationship from the past, healing and learning the lessons you need to so that you can attract better quality partners that are more of a match in values, morals and beliefs and therefore breaking that old vicious cycle you were in before.

This is because you have learned who you are, what makes you tick, what you will and won’t stand for and you are now setting boundaries that are respectful to you when you do finally go into a new romantic relationship.

The two most amazing gifts you can ever give yourself are the gifts of:
Selflove
and
Self-respect

Once you have those then you will easily gain love and respect from others how will love and respect you for who you are not who they want you to be.
So why not this valentine’s day give yourself the gift of self-love and self-respect by spending time alone to get to know yourself and treat yourself the way you would have a partner treat you if you are single.

There are plenty of ways you can practice self-love and self-care so be creative with it, romance yourselves just a little and have fun with it. I am sure you will come up with something that will work for you.

Never feel down or upset on valentine’s day because you are alone. Just relax, pamper yourself, explore and appreciate how you are and the journey you are on and know that when the time is right it will happen. Because you are an amazing person who is worthy of and deserves to be happy!

Know that on valentine’s day you are loved and always supported by the universe at all times. ©

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