Here is my friend Jan’s story about being promised financial services to help her get her start up to $800k in income on 13 months.
Jan went through a manipulation and peer pressure of sorts that cost her dearly.
Jan always like to see the good in people and it takes a lot for Jan to give up on people. Jan believe that you should do unto others what you would want done to yourself. Jan treats people with honesty and respect and hoped that people treat her the same way in return.
She Learned the hard way that unfortunately, there are people out there that are only after money who will lie scheme to get it. Not all people are honest kind people.
So coming back to the present day here and Jan’s predicament
Jan didn’t know that there were people out there that were like this and so she trusted someone a little more than she should have, and that person was only using her for the money they could get out of her and that really hurt Jan.
This person told her stories about who and what they used to be over 30 or more years ago and told her about their large network of friends who would be interested in her coaching services from the good old days to lure her in further and further to and then used her dreams of helping lots of people and making an impact on the world against To get her to pay for their fraudulent services to get her business to an income of over $800k in 13 months during COVID lock-down when she was vulnerable. When she questioned them about their services a couple of months after paying tens of thousands of dollars to them and when she was not getting the service or the financial rewards, she paid for they told her it would take more time and that it will build up soon they also used her dreams of wanting to help the less-fortunate out with the money generated from her business against her. They would say “don’t you want to help the less-fortunate in the world anymore?” and “You’ll never get to the money you want to make on your own as you don’t have the network of people around the world that would be interested in your services as we do if you try to do it on your own” and they made her feel really bad for questioning them. They were manipulative and would send her text messages every morning telling her to “have a blessed day” and that “she was loved” with little smiley faces and purple hearts to make her feel all warm and gooey and doubt herself.
Jan looked up to them like a father figure and that was why Jan gave them the benefit of the doubt many times when asking them about the next event for her business or about seeing the same people online at her business zoom events time after time after time with no new faces at those events.
They promised Jan that there were many people in their network that would be interested in Jan’s coaching services and that things would only be slow for a few weeks until they both got their grounding on the events and got better at hosting and running them.
They never give Jan an honest opinion on how she could improve things in the events. they would always say she was amazing, that she did splendidly, that she did fabulously in the event.
It should have been a warning sign when they begged Jan to do a video testimonial for them, but she couldn’t think straight as she was so used to being manipulated by them on multiple occasions as they were the Narcissistic type. She did one broad testimonial for them, but it was not specifically for their services but for events they would put on. They did not like that testimonial so they manipulated and begged Jan in to doing another one for them and made sure it was specifically for their services as a paying client of theirs as they had told Jan they would not use the first one. They then told Jan that her testimonial would help them attract more people with money to their business to purchase their services and memberships that they would then refer those new peoples on to Jan for coaching. Of course, Jan did the testimonial as she didn’t like to hear a grown man beg and was made to feel soo bad about the first testimonial she do for them. Jan was naïve in believing them about the referral they would make to her business from her testimonial.
Jan to this day is not proud of doing that testimonial for them as she was pressured into doing the testimonial and she lied in it. Jan was not getting the service or the referrals she had paid for in fact after 7 months and the service was terrible form that business of theirs with out-of-date funnels to attract clients that just didn’t bring in new clients at all.
It should have been a second warning sign when they then begged Jan to help fund the development of a new mobile application, they wanted which was supposed to go global and would attract many people. They also told her that they would refer the new people who signed up and used their mobile application on to Jan for coaching services. That never happened and it cost Jan thousands of dollars.
Jan thought that since she was paying them to help her get clients that they would know what a business SWOT is as most business people know that a SWAT is an analysis of the businesses strengths, weaknesses, Opportunities and threats and she needed help with this for an assignment she was doing but when she asked if they could help her with it they did not know what a SWOT was and told her to get help from the learning school she was studying through. This also should have been another warning sign for Jan that they were fake.
What I am trying to get at here is that yes Jan is human and people do pull at her heart strings to get Jan to do things she doesn’t want to do at times.
There were 3 warning signs that Jan should have picked up on but didn’t because she was narcissistically being manipulated by this organisation to do what they wanted her to do.
I really identified with my friend Jan on this as I have been through something similar and I think throughout our lives we all have felt that sort of peer pressure and manipulation from someone in our lives and given those types of people the benefit of the doubt when we should not have and have been made to regret it afterwards.
So tell me if you or a friend of yours have come across a peer pressure or a manipulative situation that has ended up costing you or them lots of money and if so how did you handle it?
What would you do differently now if given the chance?
Did you just walk away or did you fight to get your money back?
Looking back on the situation you know of do you now see the warning signs that you did not see back then when in that situation?
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