The first step to breaking through fear of public speaking
For those of you that did not watch my last Facebook live. On Friday morning I pushed through my fear of speaking in front of 40 to 50 people live on web-ex for work as I was invited by someone how had more belief in me than I did that I could do it.
When I was first asked on Tuesday to do it lots of fear when through my mind as I am great at speaking when it isn’t planned but this had a set topic and a set time-frame to do it in.
I thought about it for an hour and you can imagine all the limiting beliefs and fears that came into my head. All of the what if’s came flooding in like there was no tomorrow.
After that I sat and calmed myself down took a couple of deep breaths in and sat with those feeling letting them process for a while.
After the motions were processed I picked myself back up remembering who I am what I am about and where I want to me and who I need to be to get me to the place I want to me in my life.
I then positively visualised how I wanted the speech to go and what I could possibly day in the speech.I then took the plunge and said yes I would do the speech.
I did some research on the topic and planned what I was going to say. I read it over in my head a few times still feeling very nervous about it as I am not naturally a person who is great in front of a live audience.
I thought back to a session I had with another coach on this very topic of presenting in front of a large audience and put some of the techniques I got out of the session to use in the wee hours before I had to do the speech. They calmed me down and helped me feel at ease and have more clarity about what I was going to do.
I then when introduced to all the 40 to 50 people on web-ex from my work did my speech. I was nervous but remained positive throughout the speech.
I am now so very glad I was asked to do the speech and that I took the plunge to do it as I learnt and grew from that experience.
I now have more belief in myself and know that I can do it and that to become good at it one much do it repeatedly over and over gain to become good at it and to have the nerves disappear.
I am so glad I did it now as it was a challenge and in a way exciting as well as nerve racking for me. I dont think I would trade that experience for anything now. I am proud I got up and did the speech and pushed through my fears.
In the end it is like fighting 2 different parts of you. the one that wants to play it safe and not step out of your comfort zone and the other part that is daring, bold and wild and wants to experience new and exciting things outside that comfort zone because that side of you knows you can do it and that you will get so much out of the experience and develop personally from it. ©
Have any of you done something that really pushed yourself out of your comfort zone that if given the chance you would do it all over again for the experience you got from it?
If so what was it?
How did you feel before compared to how you felt after doing it?
What did you get out of the experience?
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